I live and I learn

In the last six months of my employment, I learned a good deal about working sort-of corporate, relationship break-ups (care of an officemate’s story), and culture clash misunderstandings. Despite the relevance of these topics, I ended up learning more meaningful and significant topics during my last month of unemployment. So much can happen after a sibling’s life changing accident compared to a stable job and secure money. Playing it safe does have its advantages but the risk of resigning early and supporting my family has taught me so much more. Here a few life lessons that I’ve come across in the last few weeks:

1. Less spending, more needs- The problem with living my parents (emphasis on the plural form) previously and having a stable salary was my tendency to spend ALL my income as the disposable kind. I had no contribution to bills or what not since I was never asked. We did not pay rent so there was no financial responsibility there either. Sure I was able to save a significant amount in my “untouchable” savings account, but I ended up buying more wants than needs.

The move to my lola’s and spending weeks at the hospital allowed me to stick to the basic needs: clothes, a few pairs of shoes, and a modest place to sleep. Because I primarily live on sideline money, I only spend when I have to. The experience has been humbling and enlightening. It’s also taught me about what matters and what is too much. The simple life may be limited but it’s definitely not frivolous and unnecessary.

2. Home is where the heart is- My current residence is Antipolo. In August I will be moving to the condo in Manila. Some of my friends are wondering: How about the Alabang house? My reasons for staying away from there are rather personal. But one thing’s for sure: it’s not home anymore. As much as I will miss the large party space and proximity to friends, it is not where I am needed. Home is not a matter of material conveniences but of people who matter. A big thank you and endless gratitude to my grandparents, cousins, titos, and titas who have extended support throughout my ate’s accident. πŸ™‚ You can’t always get what you want. But we definitely get what we need.

3. The universe’s master plan- My resignation was effective earlier than expected. At first I thought this would mean an earlier vacation. But the bigger picture was it gave me more time to help out my family throughout the accident. Sure there are times when I grumble at the universe for extending my unemployment period. But in the end, the universe is just placing me where I am needed the most: my family. At the same time, this current role allows me to really think about what I want for my career. I am still young and there is still time for me to figure out the future. The best decisions take time and are not rushed.

A quick blog before a serious one

Thanks to johna for this survey!

THREE WAYS I AM STILL A CHILD:

1. I adore cute animals, whether live or stuffed
2. People always ask how YOUNG i am πŸ˜› ie, when i’m with someone who looks older, the service people never ask me for anything.
3. I live with mom and grandparents. In other words, dependent on them for basic utilities and usually food

THREE WAYS I AM ALREADY OLD:

1. I can apply for jobs and have freelance gigs suited for college grads
2. I have a savings account I rarely touch
3. People call me ma’m now -_-

THREE THINGS I WANT TO DO:

1. Learn scuba diving
2. Bake. It’s been 3 months since my last dive into the oven 😦
3. Travel around the world and discover noble stories

THREE WAYS THAT I’M A STEREOTYPICAL β€œGIRL”:

1. I love fashion
2. I like boys, especially pretty and handsome ones πŸ˜›
3. I don’t really follow sports but I can join in on watching basketball. (BOSTON WHY WHY WHY :(( )

THREE THINGS OTHER PEOPLE LIKE ABOUT YOU:

1. I’m nice? haha.
2. I’m dependable?
3. I’m organized? Guessing lang.

THREE THINGS YOU DISLIKE ABOUT YOURSELF:

1. I can be really introvert. I wish I were more daring 80 percent of the time.
2. My hair.
3. My belly 😦

THREE PARTS OF YOUR HERITAGE:

1. My one Chinese eye.
2. My morena skin
3. Raised as a Southern girl and my mom came from Southern parents too. (Batangas, represent!)

THREE THINGS THAT SCARE YOU:

1. IPIS
2. Dying without doing at least ONE of my major dreams.
3. Losing my mom and sister.

THREE OF YOUR EVERYDAY ESSENTIALS:

1. My wallet
2. lip balm
3. Cellphone

THREE THINGS ABOUT THE OPPOSITE SEX (OR SAME) THAT APPEAL TO YOU:

1. Artistic talent
2. A good sense of humor
3. Being a gentleman, no questions asked.

THREE THINGS YOU JUST CAN’T DO:

1. Sing like lea michele.
2. Work in a corporate type job. (aka sellout for a great number of years)
3. Split

THREE CAREERS YOU ARE CONSIDERING:

1. A journalist or reporter for TIME, Newsweek, or any major news magazine. I can say i’ve had it made if I cover the marine life/environmental news beat πŸ™‚
2. A baker.
3. A teacher/professor

ganyan talaga ang life.

Rough translation: That’s really how life is.

I think that sentence pretty much sums up the last month. Since yesterday, June 8, I have officially spent a month:
1. Not living in my alabang house. At first I was at Asian Hospital to help my sister during her knee surgery. The technical name of the operation itself is too long, so just to sum it all up: two doctors had to work on both knees. After her three week confinement, we moved into our lola’s house in Rizal.
2. The move brings me to my stepping down as a “Southern Girl.” Yes, I am officially settled in north until August or September, when our condo in Manila is ready for turnover.
3. I have been unemployed for a few weeks now. But according to my good friend J, the unemployed title only takes effective after 6 months. I’ve been going to interviews but looks like I’m more needed by my family right now.
4. I’m focusing primarily on my freelance work now, allowing me to help my sister out and still earn money. The non-eight to five sched has also allowed me to contribute more to Clickthecity and since two weeks ago, to Asian traveler magazine. My first official article assignment will be in Anvaya Cove, Subic next week. I am so excited! πŸ˜‰
5. Started the pen-and-paper RPG D&D. No, we don’t dress up in robes and shizz. Like ew. I’m just glad to have an outlet where I can kick ass with a sword and magic. πŸ™‚

That pretty much sums up the whirlwind that was May 2010. I’ve learned a lot in those few weeks compared to the five months I was fully employed. But more on that later. For now, I have to go on with life once again.

PS. Sorry for the layout changes (for anyone who DOES follow this blog haha!). I’ve been searching for the right look but I never seem to find the right one. Maybe I should start learning photoshop with this flexible time…